Understanding your attachment style can provide valuable insights into yourself and your relationships. It can help you understand why you are attracted to certain types of people, why certain relationship issues keep arising, and why some relationships succeed while others fail. Knowing your attachment style can help you make better decisions about who you date, […]
As we continue our conversations about healthy relationships, I want to address the elephant in the room, which is the loss of a relationship. Most men who come to our group have generally arrived due to a crisis, and usually, the crisis is that of a loss of a relationship. According to Dr. Glover, "Heartbreak […]
This week's discussion will follow up on the previous week's topic, where we talked about how loss and heartbreak can affect men, especially those who identify as Nice Guys. Our focus this week is on trauma-bonded relationships. According to Dr. Glover, most Nice Guys experience intense heartbreak and loss due to idealized relationships and trauma-bonded […]
This week wraps up the first quarter of 2024, and I hope that you have had a chance to earn some wins. There is no presentation for this Tuesday and we will take time to reflect on our learnings. In this meeting, I would like to encourage all members to take advantage of this opportunity […]
April is all about living an authentic life and breaking free from the Nice Guy Syndrome. We will explore what it means to be authentic, that is, being who you are, and accepting yourself for who you are. This means being honest, living with integrity, and not hiding behind a facade. One of the main […]
Breaking free from the Nice Guy syndrome is all about becoming authentic. Authenticity is knowing that you are enough, and although sometimes uncomfortable, it also means accepting the parts of ourselves we would rather hide from others. As children, we are taught to believe that we are somehow defective due to our parents’ expectations of […]
The discussion on Living an Authentic Life continues. This is part three of a four-part discussion. This week we are going to talk about toxic shame and how releasing our shame and discovering our true self is essential for becoming authentic. --- Shame is the foundation of the nice guy syndrome. And it's a core […]
The discussion on living an authentic life continues. This week in part four of Authenticity, we are going to talk about Covert Contracts. Breaking free from the nice guy syndrome means challenging every one of your adult and childhood paradigms about who you are and how you fit into the world. And for nice guys, […]
This week we are going to talk about obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD) and the Nice Guy Syndrome. While the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual (DSM) does not list under OCD under anxiety disorders, OCD and the nice guy syndrome are both anxiety management disorders. That is not unusual for nice guys to have some obsessive behaviors in […]
Nice guys, due to their upbringing usually grow up with poor self-esteem. Even though some of the men we work with have developed the ability to fake confidence, sadly, this doesn't last long. Usually, a life event happens, which in the case of a Nice Guy is a breakup, and their whole life falls apart. […]
Nice guys often develop crushes, fall in love from afar, and have difficulty letting go of women who flake out on them, getting out of their feminine, and setting the tone. This week we will be presenting strategies for taking action, stopping second-guessing, and calming our ruminating brains. This week we will discuss why we […]
Buddha said that attachment is the cause of all suffering. Dr. Robert Glover adds that attachment is also the cause of all anxiety, and It can also be a slippery slope toward a loss of integrity. As part of the Nice Guy covert contracts, they assign outcomes to their actions, even when the two are […]
