Breaking free from the Nice Guy syndrome is all about becoming authentic. Authenticity is knowing that you are enough, and although sometimes uncomfortable, it also means accepting the parts of ourselves we would rather hide from others. As children, we are taught to believe that we are somehow defective due to our parents’ expectations of […]
The discussion on Living an Authentic Life continues. This is part three of a four-part discussion. This week we are going to talk about toxic shame and how releasing our shame and discovering our true self is essential for becoming authentic. --- Shame is the foundation of the nice guy syndrome. And it's a core […]
The discussion on living an authentic life continues. This week in part four of Authenticity, we are going to talk about Covert Contracts. Breaking free from the nice guy syndrome means challenging every one of your adult and childhood paradigms about who you are and how you fit into the world. And for nice guys, […]
This week we are going to talk about obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD) and the Nice Guy Syndrome. While the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual (DSM) does not list under OCD under anxiety disorders, OCD and the nice guy syndrome are both anxiety management disorders. That is not unusual for nice guys to have some obsessive behaviors in […]
Nice guys, due to their upbringing usually grow up with poor self-esteem. Even though some of the men we work with have developed the ability to fake confidence, sadly, this doesn't last long. Usually, a life event happens, which in the case of a Nice Guy is a breakup, and their whole life falls apart. […]
Nice guys often develop crushes, fall in love from afar, and have difficulty letting go of women who flake out on them, getting out of their feminine, and setting the tone. This week we will be presenting strategies for taking action, stopping second-guessing, and calming our ruminating brains. This week we will discuss why we […]
Buddha said that attachment is the cause of all suffering. Dr. Robert Glover adds that attachment is also the cause of all anxiety, and It can also be a slippery slope toward a loss of integrity. As part of the Nice Guy covert contracts, they assign outcomes to their actions, even when the two are […]
If you are looking for a woman to fill your life and complete you, you will never be whole or happy. A woman can't be the center of your life. She can't complete you. In this week's discussion, we are going to talk about ways to create a purposeful life. Dr. Glover says, "Many bad […]
If you are looking for a woman to fill your life and complete you, you will never be whole or happy. A woman can't be the center of your life. She can't complete you. If you want a self-confident woman who takes good care of herself, develop those traits in yourself. If you want an […]
Over the course of several years, I have identified the key issues that plague most Nice Guys and keep them stuck in mediocrity. Two of the key issues are a lack of clear purpose and a lack of a distinct clear identity. This lack of clarity is often the reason Nice Guys end up in […]
As we move into the second half of the year, it is important to revisit the topic of Purpose and Passion. A lot of people who rely on New Year's resolutions for motivation give up by this time of the year. This is a call to people who realize that they have a unique purpose […]
Fear tends to permeate many areas of our lives. For example, if you fear making new friends, it then stands to reason that you also may fear going to parties, having intimate relationships, applying for jobs, and so on. Some fear is instinctual, healthy, and keeps us alert to trouble. The rest - the part […]
